Here we go again

Today is bittersweet. Paul lost his job before Thanksgiving. We decided to put our house on the market and move back to The Gila Valley. After a week and a half, many showings and  3 offers, we accepted an offer this morning. This was the first home we’ve purchased. We were planning to stay a while. I finally made some friends. I was finally starting to like it here. Hayden was doing well in school. He has a great teacher that understands his ADD issues. He got into the gifted program. Tyler just started speech therapy.

 I’m trying to stay positive about this whole situation, but there are days that I just need to cry. I just need to feel sorry for myself for a little while. Why is it that every time I feel like “yes, we made it, we’re happy, we found a good situation, let’s stay a while” ... it all comes crashing down? We tried to buy two homes in the GV and when neither of them worked out, I knew we were supposed to leave. I knew that PV was where we were supposed to be. I thought, “ yes! Finally, a new start. We can settle down and make new friends and just start over.” But no. This has to come crashing down too.

I don’t know what comes next. I don’t know where to go from here. I Guess we need to throw up our hands and leave it up to God. Because I certainly don’t have a clue what comes next.

Lessons slowly learned

Tonight was rough with Hayden. He has trouble staying on task with most things he does. He also has a hard time obeying. I know that the latter is my fault. I give him too many chances and don't follow through with consequences when he doesn't obey. I've also made him lazy. When he was younger I would do everything for him. Everything from getting dressed to cleaning up after him. I'm a control freak and feel that what is the point of him doing it when I can do it faster and better. Well the point is, what is he learning by me doing it for him? He learns to be lazy. He learns that if he just doesn't do it, mom will.

I need to stop. Stop letting him get away with being lazy. Stop doing things for him. Give him chores. Make him work. Give consequences when he doesn't do it or when he's disrespectful. And follow through. Don't cave. It's hard. You don't want to see your kids sad or mad. But I think what's worse than seeing your kid sad is seeing your kid lazy, disrespectful, and entitled. So far my kid has been lazy, disrespectful and entitled. I need to change it. He needs to be held accountable for his actions. He's almost 9. He can do things for himself.

He can do this! And so can I! I hope.....